What To Do In Hard Time?

If you are in touch with the media, as most of us are most of the time, you are aware of the severe economic times we are in. The entire world is being affected by economic crisis. Many countries have experienced this and worse many times over. In a recent survey it was reported that 89% of Americans are having some trouble with insomnia due to anxiety over the state of the economy. All the media reports are designed to instill fear in us and when we feel fear we look for ways to escape or to protect ourselves. This is called “fight or flight.” We have adrenaline pumping in our bodies, causing increased heart and breathing rates, even sweating and trembling. This can be continuing on an unconscious level so that we don’t even know how badly it is affecting us. We are not designed to live like this for any length of time. Fear is not good for us. Worry for the future shuts us down in the present, which is where we need to be living.

Outbreaks of depression immobilize our bodies, making them feel heavy and weighed down.  Our minds become fogged and closed, as if shutting down. For security we often want to hide underneath the covers or escape into addictions.

The most dangerous state is denial: when we refuse to look at our reality and pretend that everything is just fine.
Tremendous anger turns into rage and resentment, which is harmful to the body and spirit.  We don’t even know for sure with whom we are so deeply angry. It’s often turned in on ourselves, and we blame ourselves, even though we don’t know for what.

What can we do when faced with these overwhelming feelings and thoughts?
1.    Realize we are not alone.  This world-wide problem is not of our making.  Pick up the phone and talk to friends and family and share honestly what is going on.  Listen sincerely to their plights and offer them support and comfort.
2.    Take care of yourself.  Guard against letting yourself go when under undo stress.  Stay well groomed, clean, eat regularly and in a healthy way, and also brush and floss your teeth. Keep a home and office environment as organized as possible.
3.    Take personal inventory. What thoughts or events prompted your anxiety? What are you afraid will happen? What aspect of yourself is threatened: pride, security, physical safety, relationships?  What needs to be dealt with and can be changed, and what is out of your control?  Be realistic and honest with yourself.
4.    Turn to a higher power. This may be a universal source, or whatever is greater than you are, to clear your thinking, to give you solace, a power to overcome the debilitating effect of negative thoughts.
5.    Seek help from a professional or mentor. So you can make clear decisions that our truly in your best interest, this should be someone who you believe will be honest, nonjudgmental and who can help clear out all the destructive emotional debris from the past as well as the present. This should be someone who will call you on your impulsiveness, fears, and discouragement, which help you keep from making fight or flight choices that could prove harmful to you in the long run. Finally, this should be someone who helps you keep faith in yourself and reminds you to stay positive.

We need to change our minds and get into our hearts. We need to make a personal choice: to stop struggling and to accept the situation we are individually in. We need to choose not to be a victim, regardless of our circumstances. We need to turn off all the negative messages bombarding us and turn on faith in ourselves, in those we believe in and trust, and in a higher power. We need to face the fear and do all that is positive for our life. Only then do we have a chance to really come out of this in a better place as whole, having grown, human beings.

Never Be Harsh Or Rude

In life,we live so less,that we do not remember even if we hurt someone’s heart,emotion’s,feeling’s,we should care for minute,minute,who know’s what we may say that will be rude to some one,but sometime’s its not us? its other’s that are being rude.

When someone is rude to you,don’t get rude.

1. Remain polite. No matter how difficult or nasty the rude person is, respond politely and maintain your dignity.
2. Use manners to overwhelm their rudeness. Ask them this simple question: “Am I offending you somehow? If so, I am really sorry, no offense meant.” Most people will be taken aback by this approach and will quickly backtrack to reassure you that you have not offended them.

3. Avoid responding at all. This way you remove the spark that fuels their fire. Just nod and walk off normally. Don’t sneer, don’t roll your eyes, just be pleasant in your demeanor as your saunter away from them.

4. Understand where they are coming from. Much rudeness is a sign of insecurity, anger. Accept that these rude people have more than average doses of these issues and are trying to take it out on you. It is not smart, nor is it witty; it is rudeness and a guise for not being able to be polite to people.

“Treat other’s,as  you treat yourself”

Happiness,The Gift That You Give to Others

Life,it is a really beautiful gift,When you see someone die,and you see his/her body,think,that this body is your’s,and than,see your self in a mirror,than thank life for supporting you,but life is a food,it will stay hot for sometime,than it cool’s down,and than it’s gone bad,but before this life goes away,let’s hold our hand’s and give a gift to each other,that gift is happiness,but how to do it? how to make happiness,it might sound hard,but it is easy than even making a tea!

1. Smile at them. Learn how to have a real smile, and care about people. Learn how to feel compassion when regarding someone.
2. Tell them a funny joke. Inside jokes work really well, especially if it is something only between the two of you. Learn how to make them laugh.

3. Find something funny online that you absolutely know they’ll like and send it to them in an email.

4. Compliment them sincerely. Tell them something you love about them.

5. Invite them to do something fun with you. Go bowling, swimming, or something else fun and active.

6. Pick a dandelion or blade of grass and give it to them. Say things such as, “I got this especially for you!” or “I picked this weed just for you!” It is different and might make themlaugh at your silliness, make them smile at your sweet nature.

7. Listen to them. Try to understand their thoughts and be in their shoes. This shows you care and love them, whether they may appreciate it or not. Be there. They will come to realize what a friend you’ve been.

8. Hug the person. If you have an open relationship with someone, a warm and affectionate hug can lift the spirits and bring a sense of joy and community.

9. Give a gift. Take the time out to pick out a special gift that is suitable for the person. The more thought you put into the gift, the better it is from the point of being an expression of positive energy. Be sure to include an inscription in the gift wherever possible, and make the message one that is uplifting and spiritual.

10. Spend quality time with the person. Plan for an event or simply time together in which you share precious moments on this world in each other’s company.

11. Constantly remind the person how much you value them, but don’t go too overboard. Positive affirmations to others can help build the bridge of friendship and trust. Never use sarcasm though, as sarcasm is the biggest turn-off when it comes to building strong bonds with people.

12. If you want to get creative with some of your compliments or “I love yous” depending on your relationship, you can always hide a little note saying any of these things and have a little fun with it. This can make him/her feel like you’re really going the extra mile and that they mean something to you.

If one person change’s the whole humanity will change,and if one person misleads the who of humanity is misleaded 

True Tales: a “stranger” in the back seat

For nearly fifteen years, specifically after working for several years in the UAE then returning to Egypt, I decided to buy a taxi and work as a taxi driver as an additional income after finishing the definite time of my governmental work at 2 pm, I used to have my lunch quickly, then drive my car in searching for livelihood until the middle of the night then I go back home to sleep and start again my routine in the morning and so on , and in one of the cold winter nights while the time has exceeded 11pm and the streets were almost empty of pedestrians due to heavy rain and cold weather, so I decided to suffice and then come back home to gain warmth but I found a woman standing alone on the
road side while waving to me but I hesitated little bit ,

then I decided to stop in feeling pity for her from the cold as she was single without a man beside her at this late hour of the night, then I approached to her with my car and opened the window of her side to inquire about her destination then I found that her path is the same path to my house and I liked that and waved to her to get in the car, and according to the nature of my work I used to take a quick and close look at any passenger get in my taxi to investigate at any emergency events, the woman looked to be at the end of the fourth decade of her age and she was wearing a modest dress and looked to be dignified and wealthy, then the woman sat in the back seat and closed the door and I started to go with dreaming of a hot dinner and warm bed at my home after terminating the task of driving her to her destination, and there were moments of silence and then it seemed to me that I had heard the woman’s voice while she speaking from behind me , then I sat up and turned to her in a quick look and I said to her: “Excuse me , did you say something?”, but I did not get the answer so I thought that I dozed for a moment due to stress and that the woman had never say a word then I blamed myself to jump to conclusions and I was afraid that she doubt about my behavior so I kept silent and I returned to driving at this moment she returned to speak again at the time where cell phones were not used in Egypt yet then all my senses started to work and I looked at the front mirror and I saw her murmuring with misunderstood words while she was looking at her surroundings so I realized that she was insane and perhaps it was my bad luck, I was ready to any sudden movement of her, however I controlled myself in wishing that she was not crazy and I asked her: “Excuse me , to whom you are talking?!”, then she looked at me sharply as she saw me for the first time , then the reply was categorical: “This is not your business, you only have to ” so I felt panic because I erred in my thought as her reply was categorical and it was not showing that she was crazy , then I hastened in driving in wishing to be finished of this predicament and I decided to keep silent, then she returned to talk again and in a nervous way also and looked that she threatening something sitting beside her, then I swallowed my spittle as I was very tense, but I thanked God as I reached the desired address and I stopped and ready to proceed without waiting for any fees to get rid of her , but she got out the taxi and offered the specific money to me quietly, which did not has any doubts about her mental abilities but she has left the car door which she got out of it opened , then I asked her gently to close it, but she stood before the door and kept crying at who / which she thought that was sitting beside her to got out the car immediately or she would take revenge of him/it ,then I became crazy as it was too enough for me so I get out the car and closed the door violently and turned around quickly to go away with my car in maximum speed while she was waving to me in clear anger but I did not care about it and started on my way.

Another passenger 

Few moments later I felt a presence of heavy weight in the back seat and I dominated the sense that there was someone behind me and I felt a shiver applicable in my whole body so I began to recite some verses from the Holy Koran, but my feeling has not changed as I felt that this weight increasing and the car slacken and that this invisible presence is almost attacking my neck , then I turned my car with all my strength back to the same place where I left the woman because I thought that she left to me this thing which she was talking with and it was a surprise hat I found the woman has not leave the place where I left her since she got out of my car , then I felt a terrible fear which I have never felt it before as I had a nightmare , and I stopped before her then I got out of the car and begging her to take this thing which she left it with me, and fortunately the woman did not care about me and she started back to look into the car saying angrily: “Did not I warn you and ask you to go out, if you did not come out now , nothing good will happen to you” and I kept looking at the empty car and the angry and confident peremptory tone of the woman , I felt that the place is moving around me and suddenly the back door opened of its own with great force, then I retreated back and I was almost going to loose my consciousness then the woman shouted: “Come with me now and leave the car,” and the door closed with the same force then the woman turned to me and said to me in a peremptory tone: “Go quickly and do not look behind you “, then I ran in a very trouble and insanity case as my perspiration mixed with my tears and I felt very cold with intense heat like a volcano inside me and I drove the car on a state of non-described panic, although I did not feel such a sense when I was being accompanied by that strange thing , then I took a sigh of relief after several minutes and shouted with a high voice: “Praise God .. thank God”, afterwards I went to my house and told my wife about what happened to me , then I have not driven the car anymore since that incident and we decided to sell the car forever and we actually sold it and I followed my daily life satisfying with my governmental job after I was almost going to loose my mind.

Narrated by Abdul-Sattar (60 years old) – Egypt and Sent by Hossam Hamdi

The Man In Black Tries To Get You

This story was sent to me by Vanessa,By respecting the author I do not permit anyone to copy,without authorization,hope you can understand.

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I was about 13 when it all happened, it was Friday I don’t necessarily recall the date but it was in the summer. I had invited my cousin on my moms side over, since we were going to my uncles. She was like my sister at the time no one could pull us apart. When we arrived at my uncles, he told my parents and us what rooms we were going to be sleeping in.

My cousin and I usually got the bedroom beside the bathroom but that time my uncle put us in the room beside our normal room. I always dreaded that room and was so happy when we didn’t have to sleep in there, it was a dark color red. I hate red on walls I always have, it makes me feel angry and frustrated, but I sucked it up and went upstairs and put my stuff in the room. It was all crowded with boxes of stuff that my aunt would sell at her craft shows. The worst part was there was a huge mirror in front of where I was going to sleep, I hate mirrors in my room or any room that I sleep in its a phobia for me, I cant even have the bathroom door open when I go to bed or I will not sleep. Then in front of the mirror were those ceramic dolls, I’ve always thought they were pretty but always nice to be kept away and not staring at you when you sleep.

Anyways that night my cousin and I did what we always did before bed and well talked for hours until my cousin fell asleep on me, that was normal for her. I was slowly getting sleepy but having a hard time, because there was so much stuff in there that it would make anyone claustrophobic , and that mirror facing me. Everything was just driving me crazy so I just layed there and stared at the ceiling. Finally I fell asleep.

In my dream I was running not looking back, I was so scared too but I didn’t understand why, so I got the courage to look back. There was this tall old man, he was all dressed in black, with a long black cloak on, and a black hat that looked like a cowboy hat but it was bigger around the sides. He smirked at me, as if he was enjoying me being scared, he was only walking having courage that no matter how fast I ran he would catch up. I kept running and running, until I saw a house with the door open, there was an old lady standing there waving me in. I looked back and that man wasn’t there anymore so I ran inside and the lady shut the door fast, she told me to hide, I needed to hide fast but I told her why, she told me he couldn’t find me. Then she brought me into her room and told me to hide under her bed. All I focused on was getting under the bed, but when I turned my head I saw a huge window with the blinds open, revealing the center of the window. The old lady gasped and I wasn’t sure what was happening until I saw his face in the window, she said its too late he knows where you are.

I woke up and gasped I was so scared I didn’t wanna go back to sleep, but then I saw the closet door open and he was standing there, the room was so small that there was no way I could get out without being beside him, he kept smirking, like telling me he got me, I knew if he was going to come get me, that was going to be the last night of my life, I don’t know why, even to this day but I just knew, but when I turned the light on he was gone.

Sent in by Vanessa, Copyright 2012 BLBH Blog WordPress

 

Aren’t You Glad You Didn’t Turn on the Light?

Two dormmates in college were in the same science class. The teacher had just reminded them about the midterm the next day when one dormmate – let’s call her Juli – got asked to this big bash by the hottest guy in school. The other dormmate, Meg, had pretty much no interest in going and, being a diligent student, she took notes on what the midterm was about. After the entire period of flirting with her date, Juli was totally unprepared for her test, while Meg was completely prepared for a major study date with her books.

At the end of the day, Juli spent hours getting ready for the party while Meg started studying. Juli tried to get Meg to go, but she was insistent that she would study and pass the test. The girls were rather close and Juli didn’t like leaving Meg alone to be bored while she was out having a blast. Juli finally gave up, using the excuse that she would cram in homeroom the next day.

Juli went to the party and had the time of her life with her date. She headed back to the dorm around 2 a.m. and decided not to wake Meg. She went to bed nervous about the midterm and decided she would wake up early to ask Meg for help.

She woke up and went to wake Meg. Meg was lying on her stomach, apparently sound asleep. Juli rolled Meg over to reveal Meg’s terrified face. Juli, concerned, turned on the desk lamp. Meg’s study stuff was still open and had blood all over it. Meg had been slaughtered. Juli, in horror, fell to the floor and looked up to see, written on the wall in Meg’s blood: “Aren’t you glad you didn’t turn on the lights!”

As told by Jon Little…

I heard about a girl who went back to her dorm room late one night to get her books before heading to her boyfriend’s room for the night. She entered but did not turn on the light, knowing that her roommate was sleeping. She stumbled around the room in the dark for several minutes, gathering books, clothes, toothbrush, etc. before finally leaving.

The next day, she came back to her room to find it surrounded by police. They asked if she lived there and she said yes. They took her into her room, and there, written in blood on the wall, were the words, “Aren’t you glad you didn’t turn on the light?” Her roommate was being murdered while she was getting her things.

Helpless love

Once upon a time all feelings and emotions went to a coastal island for a vacation. According to their nature, each was having a good time. Suddenly, a warning of an impending storm was announced and everyone was advised to evacuate the island.

The announcement caused sudden panic. All rushed to their boats. Even damaged boats were quickly repaired and commissioned for duty.

Yet, Love did not wish to flee quickly. There was so much to do. But as the clouds darkened, Love realised it was time to leave. Alas, there were no boats to spare. Love looked around with hope.

Just then Prosperity passed by in a luxurious boat. Love shouted, “Prosperity, could you please take me in your boat?”

“No,” replied Prosperity, “my boat is full of precious possessions, gold and silver. There is no place for you.”

A little later Vanity came by in a beautiful boat. Again Love shouted, “Could you help me, Vanity? I am stranded and need a lift. Please take me with you.”

Vanity responded haughtily, “No, I cannot take you with me. My boat will get soiled with your muddy feet.”

Sorrow passed by after some time. Again, Love asked for help. But it was to no avail. “No, I cannot take you with me. I am so sad. I want to be by myself.”

When Happiness passed by a few minutes later, Love again called for help. But Happiness was so happy that it did not look around, hardly concerned about anyone.

Love was growing restless and dejected. Just then somebody called out, “Come Love, I will take you with me.” Love did not know who was being so magnanimous, but jumped on to the boat, greatly relieved that she would reach a safe place.

On getting off the boat, Love met Knowledge. Puzzled, Love inquired, “Knowledge, do you know who so generously gave me a lift just when no one else wished to help?”

Knowledge smiled, “Oh, that was Time.”

“And why would Time stop to pick me and take me to safety?” Love wondered.

Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and replied, “Because only Time knows your true greatness and what you are capable of. Only Love can bring peace and great happiness in this world.”

“The important message is that when we are prosperous, we overlook love. When we feel important, we forget love. Even in happiness and sorrow we forget love. Only with time do we realize the importance of love. Why wait that long? Why not make love a part of your life today?”

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